Published on 18 July 2023
The prevalence of social media today means it is only a matter of time before your child uses it. Here's how you can navigate this aspect of their digital life responsibly.
‘If it’s not on social media, it didn’t happen’.
You probably would have come across this saying before, given that it is a popular mantra of the digital age that is symbolic of the importance and prevalence of social media in society today.
Given the ever-growing influence of social media, its impact, both beneficial and detrimental, has unsurprisingly become a contentious topic of debate, particularly with regard to its effects on child development.
Establishing open communication
with your child sets
the foundation for healthy social media usage
According to a survey, two-thirds of children aged seven to nine in Singapore
use smartphones every day. Many children were also found to have a social
media presence – more than 40% of them have their own Facebook accounts,
while 25% of them are on Instagram.
“The pervasiveness of social media use, especially among adolescents aged ten
to 19 years old, is an inevitable phenomenon. This increased substantially
during the Covid-19 pandemic, as in-person social interactions were replaced
with online interactions,” explained Dr Chee Tji Tjian , Consultant, Department of Psychological Medicine , National University Hospital (NUH) .
Dangers of social media
While social media use among children and adolescents is inevitable, there are
several issues that could arise if it is not managed responsibly.
“I have seen young children who would refuse to eat a full meal and even forgo
sleep just to use TikTok,” Dr Chee recounted. “These children can be incredibly
challenging for their parents because they lack the ability to regulate their
emotions, and as such, get out of control.”
In addition, children who lack parental guidance and supervision while using
social media are at an increased risk of encountering harmful content.
“I have often seen young people who go on TikTok when they are feeling low
and start watching content that explores darker themes or subject matter. It is
not something they actively look for, but it gets fed to them because their
eyeballs might linger longer on such harmful videos,” explained Dr Chee.
Self-harm videos, in particular, are a major concern, as it could encourage
children to mimic the acts they see.
“Photos and videos circulating on social media of young people self-harming can
trigger difficult thoughts and feelings among others who feel similar,” Dr Chee
elaborated.
“Repeated and prolonged exposure to content of such nature can lead to the
normalisation of these harmful behaviours. Eventually, it may serve as an
impetus for self-harming behaviour, even among children who may not have
done so prior.”
Cyberbullying is another pervasive negative aspect of social media. The inherent
anonymity of social media enables people to engage in toxic behaviours without
facing immediate repercussions.
The use of social media and digital platforms expands the reach of the bullying
behaviour, prolongs the duration of harassment, and exposes victims to a wider
audience, intensifying the emotional distress and psychological suffering
experienced by the victims.
Excessive screen time could also have an adverse effect on the development of
a child’s brain, as Dr Chee shared, “When a child spends long periods of time
staring at a screen, it could lead to a slower development of the prefrontal
cortex of their brain.
“This is the part of the brain that defines us as humans in many ways – it is
responsible for executive functions like controlling impulses or emotions,
sustaining attention, following through multi-step instructions, and persisting in
a hard task.”
Protecting your child
Implementing social media usage guidelines is key to safe-guarding the physical,
emotional, and social well-being of a child.
As a general guideline for parents, Dr Chee suggests limiting the use of devices
to a common area where parents can easily supervise the content their child is
consuming, while also monitoring the amount of time they spend on their
devices.
“Before having those measures in place, it is important to talk about screen time
and agree on a pre-set allowance,” Dr Chee said. “This applies to everyone in the
family, and parents should be the ones setting the example.
Setting boundaries around
social media usage is key
Supervise
the content directly
through parental
controls on devices
Set
ground rules on
social media
usage
Limit
their presence
on social media
until older
Restrict
the overall amount
of time spent on
social media
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Pay
attention
to
their emotions
Respect
children’s feelings
Listen
actively
Implement
active communication
everyday about
various topics
Practice
mindfulness of
your
tone of voice
Risks of unsupervised
social media use for young age
Content normalising
self-harm
Unrealistic impressions
of the society
Online bullying
Harmful and
damaging content
to self-esteem
of children aged
7 to 9
in Singapore
use smartphones
every day
2/3
are on
Instagram
25
%
have
Facebook
accounts
More than
40
%
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“I encourage parents to co-watch videos with your child so that you are aware of the content they are consuming. This can also serve as a way of bonding with your child.”
While there are no strict rules for determining when a child should be exposed to social media, Dr Chee suggests that parents should maintain limitations on its use until their child reaches the age of 12.
“You might trust your child, but the content that comes through social media can be difficult to monitor,” Dr Chee said. “It is fluid and you can never know what content can come up on screen next. Children need boundaries, structures, and a certain level of maturity to navigate this.”
In consultation with Dr Chee Tji Tjian , Consultant, Department of Psychological Medicine, NUH .
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